Are You Asking The Wrong Questions?
"What if things go wrong? What if something bad happens? What if I say or do the wrong thing? What if "this" happens? Yeah, but what if "that"happens? What if I make a mistake?"Many have asked me to write about…
Anxiety and “Stinking Thinking”
Most people with anxiety have a tendency toward negative thinking. In a situation where someone else might think “Oh, this could be a minor inconvenience,” you may think it would be awful or it could wreck your mood or even…
Why Does CBT Work (for Anxiety and More)?
You have about 500,000 thoughts every day. Some of them are conscious, but many are thoughts in your subconscious mind – you’re not even aware of them. The types of thoughts you think directly correspond to how you feel. If…
What Is Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)?
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented type of treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. CBT is different than traditional ‘talk therapy’ because it is a more educational approach. The CBT process teaches you new tools…
Is It Possible To Accept What Is?
Great peace is possible when you can stay in the present moment and accept what is. But it’s not easy, especially when you face challenges. Buddhist teachings focus a lot on acceptance as part of the path to enlightenment. One…
#1 Most Effective Anxiety Treatment: CBT
When you know what really creates anxiety, then it’s easy to determine the most effective way to get rid of it.So what creates anxiety? People give me all kinds of answers to this question:I don't know; I just feel anxiousExternal…
Where Am I Now?
W.A.I.N.WhereAm I NowAnxiety always comes from your mind being in the future, or being in the past. Use this acronym to remind yourself to come back to the present moment.You have an average of 500,000 thoughts a day, and most…
Why Meditate?
This is a question near and dear to me right now, having recently returned from a 10 day meditation course. I learned Vipassana meditation, a technique taught by Buddha 25 centuries ago as part of his path to enlightenment. For…
The Anxiety of Indecision
Having trouble making decisions? Does decision-making cause anxiety?Actually, indecision itself causes MORE anxiety than making a decision. It's the indecision that causes What Ifs, worry, second-guessing, and bad feelings that come along with feeling stuck. Step 1: Make a DecisionIn most cases, it doesn't really…
Fear of The Dreaded Unknown
Do you dread change? Worry about the future? Fear the unfamiliar? Why do we fear The Unknown? Remember, fear is a natural human instinct. Your brain is wired to seek safety. Your brain isn't sure whether new things or The Unknown things…